Our lives are filled with feelings, there's no denying it. Maybe even more so since becoming parents. Parenting by Connection can be practised more mindfully by inviting a balance of laughter and tears, for us and our children.
I'd love to share with you some ways I'm thinking about balance in my parenting at the moment. Firstly, as I deepen my understanding of the Parenting by Connection Listening Tools, I see more and more how they all work together. For example, focusing on StayListening and Setting Limits can be incredibly effective in helping my children through an emotional moment, however I find these tools work best when balanced out with Special Time and Playlistening.
It's like all the listening I do through the tears and tantrums is deep, emotional work that can be challenging for both me and my children..... and then the playing and light-heartedness of the other tools brings the light back, shifts the feel of our interactions into another place that doesn't feel so heavy. However, I see time and time again, how much more effective StayListening and Setting Limits are if we have built up our closeness through play or Special Time. And to complete the balance....listening to the deep emotions often results in me feeling so much love and compassion for my children, that I find playfulness comes more easily.
The other part of maintaining balance in my parenting is thinking about the time that I spend connecting with myself, doing the things that I love doing, and balancing that with time spent offering connection to my children. We have all heard that we need to "top up" ourselves before we can give fully, however I'd love you to think about what this really means for you? I've been exploring this in the last few months, and am seeing more and more that when I do things I love, I have MORE energy, connection and love to give!
One thing I love doing, which I am starting to reconnect with more and more, is my colourful creativity. Here's something I made recently that I'd like to share with you.....
Here's to more heart opening moments, to more listening, and to the balance of life. With warmth, Lyra